You Can Tell A Couple Has A Truly Happy Marriage If You See 9 Sweet Things In Their Home
PeopleImages / ShutterstockOur homes are reflections not only of our personal style and financial status, but also of all kinds of aspects of our personalities and personal lives. The quality of a particular couple's marriage, for example, can be revealed in clues scattered all around their house.
If a couple is really and truly happily married, you're likely to find that the way they choose to decorate and lay out the space and the items they fill their home with are selected in a meaningful way that mirrors various aspects of their love and deep connection to each other.
Couples with truly happy marriages almost always have these sweet things in their home
1. A cozy space for having deep conversations
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The happiest couples love having deep talks with each other about all sorts of things. They may not always do it intentionally, but they'll often have a space in their home that's become their designated space to sit down and share the details of their work days or fill each other in on gossip about their family and friends. When something goes wrong and they need to brainstorm through the problem together, they instinctively head to the one super cozy couch or their favorite spot on the back porch.
Regardless of where the space is or what it looks like, having a comfortable place they both associate with warmth and playful support keeps positive communication flowing, strengthening their relationship every time they talk.
2. Photos of themselves and their family
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Having framed photos on display around your home can make us truly happy, especially when they center around warm, nostalgic memories. These pictures are reminders of the love we share with the people in our lives, even when it’s easy to get caught up in everyday demands and obligations.
The happiest couples are proud of their relationship and probably talk about it a lot, but they also broadcast happy memories of each other at home. They’re proud to love out loud, even if it’s only the two of them or the family that appreciates the photos on a daily basis.
3. A shared calendar
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Instead of being completely on different pages, or, even worse, being secretive about where they’re spending their time, happy couples often share calendars. A calendar may seem like a purely logistical item that wouldn't have much impact on the quality of a marriage, but sharing a calendar means a couple is transparent with each other about what they are doing and what their priorities are. Staying on the same page in this way makes it easier for them to make sure they have time to connect and avoid conflicts that could easily become upsetting.
When you’re worrying about a big event coming up or dealing with anxiety over trying to make plans without knowing your partner’s schedule, that inner turmoil seeps into other areas of your life, making you less present and engaged and more easily frustrated. With the ability to quickly see what you're both up to, those kinds of unnecessary small worries don't have to get in the way of your relationship.
4. Equipment or supplies for a shared hobby
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Lots of people like to say that opposites attract, and sometimes that's true. But it's far more common for successful couples to share the same interests and hobbies than for them not to.
If you visit a couple's home and see a spot where their mountain bikes are parked side by side or their hiking shoes are carefully placed awaiting their next adventure, there's a good chance you're in the presence of a fairly happy couple.
Especially in long-term relationships, just having this hobby to come back to together when things get rough is a great way to stay connected.
5. Separate spaces
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While it might sound counterintuitive in a close relationship, having space for yourself at home can actually deepen your connection. If you feel like your entire life and sense of self revolve around your relationship, the relationship itself sometimes becomes a point of anxiety, rather than a safe space.
Some of the healthiest couples have their own space, whether that means separate bedrooms or just a space in the home dedicated to their own work or hobbies. They can find time to themselves to reflect, work on themselves, get better quality sleep, and invest time and energy in their own interests, helping their relationship grow in profound ways.
6. A structure for household labor
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The happiest couples figure out how to stay on the same page when it comes to dividing household labor. It might seem like such a small part of married life, but attention to these kinds of details and prioritizing balance that protects a marriage in the long run.
If one partner is growing resentful from having to do everything or feeling unsupported with chores, that can be destructive to even the strongest connection. That’s why logistics matter, even if they’re not glamorous or romantic.
7. Some form of speakers for their music
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Music is healing and can strengthen a couple's bond. Even on the longest, most stressful days, making dinner or dancing in the kitchen to a playlist both partners love can make everything better. Even if it’s just a brief escape from the stress of the world and a reminder to come back together, having speakers at home so you can play music together is a powerful detail.
As a 2016 study explains, the more smiling and laughter a couple actually experiences in their relationship, the happier and more satisfied they are. That’s where music comes in. Dancing together can be silly. Or you can sing karaoke at home with nobody listening and make dinner to a soundtrack that reminds you how much you love your partner. Doing these small things matters.
8. A dedicated place for their phones when they're not being used
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Too much screen time and the distraction of notifications from your phones can slowly chip away at a relationship over time, which is exactly why the best couples have a dedicated space where they put them down for periods of time to make sure they disconnect from the internet and tap back into their focus on their partner.
Of course, leaving your phones on DND and stepping away from them completely for a long time every day is unrealistic for most people, but sometimes, the ritual of a phone-free hour or two at night is powerful enough to make a big difference.
9. Decorative touches that blend each of their personal styles
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When you share a home with someone else, you also have to share the vibe, so it's ideal to make it a safe, enjoyable space for both people. For some, that means letting their partner take the reins and make the decorating decisions, while for others, it means figuring out a balance between the kind of decor one partner likes and the kind their spouse prefers.
In the happiest homes, there’s a clear balance. Even if one room is dedicated to one partner, there are glimpses of the other’s style in other spaces. They both feel a deeper sense of ownership and comfort, which makes it feel better to be there together.
Zayda Slabbekoorn is a senior editorial strategist with a bachelor’s degree in social relations & policy and gender studies who focuses on psychology, relationships, self-help, and human interest stories.
