People Who Make Others Feel Mentally & Emotionally Loved Usually Say 9 Phrases In Casual Conversation
helenalopes | PexelsIf you want to get your partner to open up to you emotionally so you can deepen your bond and enhance your relationship, you need to think about what you say and, more importantly, how you say it. Some words can push your partner away, while other casual phrases can make them feel mentally & emotionally loved.
Men and women have major communication differences and tend to respond differently to how things are phrased. Of course, every person is different, so try out what feels right to you and follow through with what works for you and your unique relationship.
People who make others feel really loved usually say these phrases casually:
1. 'I understand how you feel; I'd feel the same way'
Casual phrases such as this convey that you identify with them and validate their feelings, which is what we all want when it comes to feeling mentally & emotionally loved. Most people simply need to feel heard, and to know you feel compassion for them, so steer clear of trying to fix the problem (which is often difficult, as we are wired to try to help) or offering any unsolicited advice, such as anything starting with "You should…"
2. 'Know that I'm here for you and I always will be'
They need to know you aren't going to take off at the first sign of difficulties and you're in the relationship for the long haul. This casual phrase will make your partner feel secure, safe, and emotionally loved, and will convey to them that you won't abandon them.
3. 'I'm on your side. What can I do to help?'
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Let them know you are united as a couple, and it's the two of you against the world. Most people want to feel taken care of and supported, and they need to know the two of you are a team.
4. 'I don't know where I'd be without you — you mean everything to me'
Where one partner might tend to want to feel needed, it's natural for the other to tend to want to feel cherished & emotionally loved. Casual phrases like this one convey to them that you value them and recognize their worth, which goes a long way toward making them feel connected to you.
5. 'I...' statements
Make your partner feel mentally & emotionally loved by showing your vulnerable side. Use "I" statements to let them know your feelings, such as I feel overwhelmed by everything we have going on." If you express your feelings in this manner, they will feel much more connected to you and will naturally start to open up more.
6. 'I'm the luckiest person in the world to have you'
If you truly want to make your partner feel mentally & emotionally loved, instead of saying "Wow baby, you look hot," try "Honey, you are so gorgeous. I'm the luckiest person in the world to have you." Then give them a long, warm hug, holding onto them until they let go.
7. 'It's so important to me...'
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Starting a conversation by volunteering your feelings first makes that conversation less threatening. "It's so important to me that I know what you think," is more inviting than "What are you feeling?" A person's response to the latter usually ranges from "How will my answer get me into trouble?" to "Am I supposed to know what I am feeling?"
8. 'I miss you...'
In the same way, "Why are you always away from home?" is not as inviting or endearing as "I miss you when you are not around home." The latter phrase makes a person feel mentally & emotionally loved, whereas the former feels almost threatening.
9 'I love it when...'
If they say, "I love it when you tell me about when we first met and how you felt that night," give them the answer (in specific detail) because this is a clear bid for connection that they're seeking mental & emotional love from you.
Jane Garapick is a dating and relationship coach, author, and founder of Getting to True Love. She inspires, supports, and empowers women on their journey to find true love.
Brock Hansen, LCSW, author of Shame and Anger: The Criticism Connection, is a clinical social worker and personal effectiveness coach with over thirty years of experience in counseling individuals with a variety of problems related to shame and anger.
