People Whose Intelligence Intimidates Pretty Much Everyone Else Usually Have 11 Traits
Inside Creative House | Shutterstock According to the theory of multiple intelligences, being smart doesn’t fall into just one category. Having mathematic intelligence or linguistic intelligence helps people flourish in academic settings while people with Interpersonal intelligence skillfully navigate social situations. Intrapersonal intelligence lays a foundation for strong self-awareness.
Some people have an almost magical combination of these types that makes them not just smart, but also intimidating to some.
People whose intelligence intimidates pretty much everyone else usually have traits:
1. They question conventional wisdom
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People with unique intelligence often have an expansive perspective of the world, which is intimidating to people around them. They want to understand everything on a deeper level, which means they're not scared to question the status quo.
If this sounds like you, it's likely true that you rarely accept things as they appear on the surface. It's not that you break the rules, it's more that you want to know the reasons they exist before following them.
You're on a lifelong quest to understand not just "what," but also "why" and "how." Part of questioning conventional wisdom means expressing your belief and speaking out when you disagree with people, which can be intimidating.
Your inquisitive mind might be off-putting to certain people, but that says way more about them than it does about you.
2. They're observant
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People with this type of unique intelligence often have keen eye and observant nature that gives them a window into who people really are. They pay attention to subtle details, which is intimidating to others because not everyone really wants to be seen for who they are.
If this sounds like you, it's highly likely that, when people speak, you listen with your whole heart, channeling your unique intelligence to understand them in a more profound way. You don't just hear what people say, you hear the emotion behind their words.
You recognize hidden depths within everyone you meet. People often share things with you they've never told anyone else. Your unique intelligence provides you with insight on what matters most to other people: feeling seen and being accepted.
3. They listen to their intuition
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When you're highly intelligent in more than one of these ways, people are often put off by how in tune you are witnessing your intuition. You're connected to your inner world in a way other people aren't, and the strength of your self-trust and your belief in your convictions is intimidating to them.
Aimee Leigh, an intuitive clairvoyant and spiritual teacher, described intuition as "a spontaneous and instinctive understanding or insight without the need for conscious reasoning." She offered practical approaches to sharpen your intuition, including journaling, spending time in nature, and practicing mindfulness and gratitude.
Once you notice your inner voice, you make "the shift from living in fear and disconnection to love, certainty, and empowerment," Leigh explained. "This is when we are truly free and are living an intuitive life."
Leigh revealed the silver bullet for connecting with your intuition on a deeper level, advising, "Love yourself. Fall in love with your intuition and commit to creating a healthy, loving relationship in which you communicate daily, fostering trust, awareness, and empowerment. Vow to have yourself be your own guide and allow your intuition to lead the way."
4. They avoid small talk
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People who are highly intelligent often feel irritated or bored by small talk.
If you can relate to a deep aversion to small talk, it's likely one part of your unique intelligence that can intimidate others. You understand that small talk is a useful tool for starting simple, innocuous conversations, but your intellect makes you crave real connection, even with people you've just met.
You'd much rather dive right in and discover people as their truest selves, and not the sanitized versions they present in public. You skip over any platitudes about the weather and go straight for the heart. You ask people about their childhood, their hardships, their dreams, all the ways they're vulnerable and human.
After conducting several studies on small talk, the American Psychological Association reported that fear of feeling awkward is a big reason people stick to small talk, instead of starting off with more meaningful conversations.
"People seemed to imagine that revealing something meaningful or important about themselves in conversation would be met with blank stares and silence, only to find this wasn't true in the actual conversation," explained Nicholas Epley, a behavioral science professor.
"If you share something meaningful and important, you are likely to get something meaningful and important exchanged in return, leading to a considerably better conversation," he concluded.
5. They embrace nuance
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High levels of unique intelligence open people up to understand and embrace nuance, which is a skill most are lacking. If you're one of these people, you probably let yourself sit in the gray space of uncertainty, of mixed emotions, of murky futures. Your ability to face discomfort is intimidating to people around you, because it's such a rare way to exist in the world.
Most people rely on all-or-nothing thinking as a form of self-protection. Keeping people in narrow boxes and staying in their own lane keeps them from tapping into their vulnerability.
Holding space for nuance is transformative, but it can also feel scary, which makes that aspect of your unique intelligence so intimidating.
6. They're always improving
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People who intimidate others with their intelligence are rarely content to stay where they are, intellectually or emotionally.
When you're one of these people, you draw upon your unique intelligence to open doors other people keep closed. You're not scared of change and you're committed to growing as a person, which is intimidating to people who are stuck in old patterns with no way out.
Your unique intelligence makes you introspective, heightening your self-awareness. You do the hard work of knowing yourself on a deeper level, but you don't just stay in your head. You put self-discovery into action.
You let go of behaviors that don't serve you. You try new things without fear of failure, because you know that every mistake is a learning opportunity. You're always evolving, and that's intimidating to some, because it shines a spotlight on all the ways they haven't changed.
7. They're highly creative
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Creativity and intelligence go hand-in-hand, which is a big reason why people can become intimidated. Often, they feel creatives and intellectuals are two ends of a spectrum. In reality, deeply intelligent people have strong skills in both areas.
If you're one of these lucky individuals, your unique intelligence is likely a launching point for your vivid imagination, and the wealth of creativity you have access to is intimidating to people around you. You use your creative energy to make life beautiful, every single day. You take selfies with trees, you collect flowers and press them between the pages of books. You write silly little songs and share them with your friends.
Your home is a sanctuary for self-expression, where you shine bright and welcome others to join you. Your unique intelligence is intimidating to people who don't understand your vision. You don't just see the world for what it is — you see beyond it, into undiscovered realms, and you know that another world is always possible.
8. They're not focused on external validation
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High levels of multiple forms of intelligence can help people find their self-esteem from internal sources, rather than feeling a need to externalize it.
If you're highly intelligent, you're probably not focused so much on what other people thinkg. This can be intimidating to people around you because you're cool, calm, and collected, and you don't care what they think of you. Your intelligence gives you a baseline of self-assuredness that shows you don't focus on external validation to feel good about yourself.
You're fully aware of your worth, which is where your confidence comes from. Your stable sense of self is your North Star, guiding you through the dark.
9. They're passionate
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The intense passion at the core of these unique people's intelligence is intimidating sometimes. That's because others may feel like they're lacking. They observe how deeply these intelligent people feel, how moved they are by every little part of life, and they wonder why they can't access that same depth of emotion.
If this sounds like you, please know that your unique intelligence connects you to your truth. It connects you to your senses, your loved ones, your values and joys. You're elevated to heights other people can't even imagine. Your high-vibration existence is a source of wonder, awe, and envy. You live a fully embodied existence, which is intimidating to people who can't do the same.
10. They're spiritually intelligent
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Spiritual intelligence isn't about religion or any woo-woo practice. People who posess this type of intelligence connects them to something bigger in the world, bigger than themselves and even what they can see right in front of them.
If you posess spiritual intelligence, your unique intelligence is directly tied to your spiritual intelligence, which is intimidating to people around you who don't have a spiritual practice. Psychologist Robert Emmons described spirituality as "a search for the sacred, for experience that is meaningful in and of itself." He saw spirituality as a journey to embark on and a skillset that could be channeled to create a productive and meaningful life.
According to Emmons' viewpoint, spiritual intelligence is made up of several interconnected components. Spiritual intelligence allows people to transcend their physical existence and reach a heightened state of consciousness, which gives them a sense of unity and oneness with all things.
Your unique spiritual intelligence lets you carry your heightened consciousness into your mundane life, leading you to find higher purpose in the details of your day-to-day life, which can be hard for people to understand.
11. They're authentic
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People who are truly authentic are often also highly intelligent in at least one of the many forms.
They're not afraid to let their truest self shine through, and that, in itself, is intimidating to some. Their intelligence is one of the most authentic parts about them and, while most people hide their authenticity because it requires being vulnerable, intelligent people shine that light out into the world.
As well-being expert Tchiki Davis pointed out, being vulnerable is "like opening up an old wound and telling others right where to poke you." But, according to Davis, "To fully be ourselves we have to be our full selves. We can't just pick and choose the parts that we like."
You're not ashamed of your imperfections when you've come to embrace your intelligence. You don't let them define you or predict your path. You know they're only one part of you, and the sum of who you are, as a wholly-realized person, is so much greater.
Alexandra Blogier, MFA, is a staff writer who covers psychology, social issues, relationships, self-help topics, and human interest stories.
